Friday, 30 November 2012

No Such Thing As A Perfect Parent

Over the past couple of days/ weeks I have noticed quite a few dramas and silly comments going on, on Twitter I'm not normally one to take much notice I normally just skip past silly remarks people make. However it is really starting to grate on me especially recently when I saw a horrible comment made about somebody else's parenting styles from somebody who isn't even a mum yet. Why can't people just understand that everybody has different views and styles of parenting, wouldn't it be boring it everybody bought their children up in the same way?
There are things that other parents do that I don't agree with but I don't know what goes on behind closed doors, there may be reasons behind what people do, reasons that you don't know about.

What annoys me the most is that these silly comments go on between mums about other mums aren't there enough people out there who make ridiculous comments about mums without us doing it ourselves.
I probably do lots of things other people won't agree with and do you know what, I don't really give a monkeys what people think.

Sometimes I co-sleep with Thomas I always ensure he is safe and since he was born I have been a light sleeper anyway so any movement from him and I'm awake. People say it's a bad habit to get in to but Thomas still also settles in his cot.

I've given Thomas a couple of milky buttons only about 3 in his life but as long as he has a healthy balanced diet what's wrong with him having treats in the future as long as he hasn't got a mouth full of cake everyday (which I wouldn't allow) ? I eat sweets, crisps and chocolate and I did when I was little and I'm healthy and not over weight so wouldn't I be a hypocrite if I didn't let Thomas have any when he's older?

I don't breastfeed, Thomas and I couldn't get on with it. I get that breastfeeding is better for the baby but does there need to be so much pressure put on it? I'm fed up of bottle feeding being seen as failing. I cried when I had to give up breastfeeding I felt as if I was failing at being a mum after just one week and it shouldn't be like that.

I'm a good parent, my son is healthy and happy and that is all that matters to me, as a parent I can only do what is best for my son. I'm not a perfect parent they don't exist but I am the best parent I can be for my son and I meet all of his needs. I will make mistakes because we all do you are silly if you think you won't. Being a parent is hard at times and we don't need it made harder with all these silly comments.

In the words of that girl on mean girls "Why can't we all just get along and bake a cake full of rainbows and smiles and we'd all just eat it and be happy!"


  1. Lovely post! Could not agree with you more! I get judged a load by people in the street just because im young.

    Mums should be sticking together!

  2. I quickly learnt that as a mummy you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't - love this post! xx


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